Poems About Loss Of Loved One

Should you write your own poems?

I wrote a poem for my Mother In Law to put in the papers as a “in memorium” but I had written poetry before, if you have never written poems before then trust me - now isn’t the time to get started. If you do try writing in loving memory poems for someone else you may find it a lot harder than you think, you really have no idea how they want to express themselves or the feeling that they want to share. You might want to get a book of in loving memory poems and go through it with them (for support).

If the family is depending on you to come up with appropriate poems about loss of loved one, then now isn’t the time to try, you could spend days trying to find the right words and in the end you may have nothing to read at the service.

If you want to look at some poems and change them to be more specific to the person who died, that’s a great idea, but take the time to read through a lot of different ones. As you know from past experience, the first thing you choose isn’t always the right one.

There always seems to be a sense of urgency with these things, you need to find an appropriate poem, re-word it to suit, get the family approval and then show it to the person conducting the service so that they make sure that no one else will be reading the same poem (the original).

I have heard a lot of poems over the years which have been written by family members, some of them were ok but others weren’t so good, you also need to remember that if you write it down (must do) that other people can read your writing in case you’re not up to reading it (and check your spelling).

Even though I have written poetry before I think that the safest option is to find a poem which you like and use it, or adapt it to suit the person.