Poems About Loss Of Loved One

The best poems for funerals have to fit the person properly, some people choose a poems for the words of sentiment instead of the accuracy towards the person who died. It’s always nice to hear in loving memory poems which reflect properly, if your loved one liked to go fishing, you wouldn’t choose something which highlighted the moon and stars, you could but people close to him may be waiting for the relevance.

You do need to take the time and effort to find something which reminds people of that person as an individual. Read through poems and think of the person instead of how nice the words are, the words to many poems are very nice but you’re looking for something which stands out and reads as if it were written for them.

Don’t rush your choice, get other family members to help too, it’s helpful for the grieving process. Once you’ve found an appropriate poem, put it to one side and look for two more, this was if you change your mind you’ve got other choices.

Once you have a poem in mind, make sure that you can actually read it. The more accurate towards a person that the poem is, the harder it can be to read so you really don’t want any words which you may stumble over during the reading. Go over the poem and see if there is anything you would like to change to make it more appropriate, and then read it to someone to make sure that it makes sense.

Many poems of the best poems for funerals have been modified to suit the person, they may have been written by an obscure poet over a century ago who you’ve never heard of, but once you adapt it to suit your needs it may sound like the bast poem on the face of the earth.

Should you write your own poems?

I wrote a poem for my Mother In Law to put in the papers as a “in memorium” but I had written poetry before, if you have never written poems before then trust me - now isn’t the time to get started. If you do try writing in loving memory poems for someone else you may find it a lot harder than you think, you really have no idea how they want to express themselves or the feeling that they want to share. You might want to get a book of in loving memory poems and go through it with them (for support).

If the family is depending on you to come up with appropriate poems about loss of loved one, then now isn’t the time to try, you could spend days trying to find the right words and in the end you may have nothing to read at the service.

If you want to look at some poems and change them to be more specific to the person who died, that’s a great idea, but take the time to read through a lot of different ones. As you know from past experience, the first thing you choose isn’t always the right one.

There always seems to be a sense of urgency with these things, you need to find an appropriate poem, re-word it to suit, get the family approval and then show it to the person conducting the service so that they make sure that no one else will be reading the same poem (the original).

I have heard a lot of poems over the years which have been written by family members, some of them were ok but others weren’t so good, you also need to remember that if you write it down (must do) that other people can read your writing in case you’re not up to reading it (and check your spelling).

Even though I have written poetry before I think that the safest option is to find a poem which you like and use it, or adapt it to suit the person.