Can a grief poem actually help with the grieving process? Again there are a couple of opinions about this one:
Some in loving memory poems can help your to grieve because the wording is so appropriate that it comforts you. Finding a grief poem which can comfort you is not an easy task, searching the internet for them can take weeks.
Some people that I have spoken to say that a grief poem just stirs up too many memories for them and they find that it’s too painful. Although all of the people I spoke to said that they had read a lot of grief poetry which had probably made a difference to how they had handled their loss.
My opinion is easy, if it feel right and doesn’t cause you any more pain then do it. I like to read a grief poem just to see how this could relate to someones life, I have found it hard at times but loss is hard. Some people try to move on too quickly instead of mourning or grieving the loss of their loved one which is wrong. Moving on too quickly doesn’t allow you to say goodbye properly which means that in six months or a year, you could sit their crying and not even realize why.
The reason a grief poem can help so much is because it becomes visual, the more you read it the more you can picture your loved one so they are never really gone.
If you are thinking of reading a grief poem at a funeral service, remember to make sure that it reflects your loved one and their personality, this way everyone will pick up on the love you feel, as well as the sorrow.