Poems About Loss Of Loved One

Writing a eulogy for a friend or family member needs to be done right, I’ve decided to give you an overview of what you need to do so that it all goes well.

If you don’t know how to write a eulogy (not many people do) please make sure that you follow these points.

Firstly you need to focus: Don’t start by thinking of where you will be giving the eulogy or how many people will be there, this will only make you nervous before you even put pen to paper.

Be Alone: You can’t begin writing a eulogy with the TV/Radio playing or lots of people talking, you need silence. You need to go somewhere that you won’t be disturbed, turn out the light for 10 minutes and sit quietly. Once you’ve done this, start to think about the life of the person you are writing the eulogy about.

Start Writing: No plan at this point, just write down everything which comes into your mind. Keep doing this for some time, write down stories and memories, If you’re writing a eulogy for a friend, you don’t have to worry that some of your thought may be R Rated, you can edit these later, for now just keep writing.

Music and Pictures: Music plays a big part in my life so I remember certain occasions through the music I was listening to at the time. Have a look through some of your old track and see if this brings any flashes of inspiration, it often helps.

Put it together: Now that you’ve got all of your ideas on paper, turn them into a eulogy. Don’t worry this isn’t finished yet, once you have a draft copy of the eulogy, leave it alone for a few hours and don’t even think about it.

Edit and Polish: Now that you’ve had some time to forget about the eulogy you need to go back and read it, you will see things which need changing and rearranging. Get exact, now that you have your draft you can put more precise details in there too.

Get someone to listen: This is really important, before you read a eulogy for a friend or family member you need to try it out. I don’t mean that you have to stand in a room full of people and ask their opinions, you do however need to get an objective opinion and get proper feedback (don’t settle for someone saying “yeah that’s fine).

REMEMBER

You need to make sure that when you are writing a eulogy that you have got exact details – you will offend a lot of people if you get things wrong so Do Your Homework Properly.

Can a grief poem actually help with the grieving process? Again there are a couple of opinions about this one:

Some in loving memory poems can help your to grieve because the wording is so appropriate that it comforts you. Finding a grief poem which can comfort you is not an easy task, searching the internet for them can take weeks.

Some people that I have spoken to say that a grief poem just stirs up too many memories for them and they find that it’s too painful. Although all of the people I spoke to said that they had read a lot of grief poetry which had probably made a difference to how they had handled their loss.

My opinion is easy, if it feel right and doesn’t cause you any more pain then do it. I like to read a grief poem just to see how this could relate to someones life, I have found it hard at times but loss is hard. Some people try to move on too quickly instead of mourning or grieving the loss of their loved one which is wrong. Moving on too quickly doesn’t allow you to say goodbye properly which means that in six months or a year, you could sit their crying and not even realize why.

The reason a grief poem can help so much is because it becomes visual, the more you read it the more you can picture your loved one so they are never really gone.

If you are thinking of reading a grief poem at a funeral service, remember to make sure that it reflects your loved one and their personality, this way everyone will pick up on the love you feel, as well as the sorrow.